Wellness & Resiliency Coaching
We all have stories about who we are. Some of these stories contain information we told ourselves or that others told us. Some of this information is erroneous and limiting. We have gotten this far and now we want to have a new experience of who we are and what we are doing. Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Nothing changes if nothing changes. There is a lot of cutting edge information out there, but you probably don’t have time to read all of the books or watch all of the videos. This is where I come in.
Journey to More Fulfilled Life
My Story ~
Once upon a time, I had a wish. I wanted a successful business that embodied my philosophy and helped as many people as possible. I created what I wanted and it was successful beyond my dreams. As time went on, my goals changed and I realized coaching is where my passion lies.
Following in my adoptive father’s footsteps, I earned my Masters and Doctorate degrees in Psychology. During this time I was coaching people, however I then went on to become a licensed psychologist (PSY23759) in California and earned certifications in Personal Growth Coaching, Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, Brainspotting and the Havening Technique. I built a successful private practice, at one point, with 27 clients. My maximum was 22 and I was beyond that.
I went to see a coach. I told her I wanted to weave coaching back into what I was doing. She said, “I am going to talk you out of that.” After questioning me, she said, “Oh you have more referrals than you can handle? You should start a center.” I quantified my philosophy, hired staff and built a center. I had a vision of what I wanted and built that vision: A successful business with no more than 6 employees where we could help the public and create a place where people wanted to work. I wanted a business that would enable me to have more fun, travel and spend time with those I enjoyed. I created this business in 2006 and sold it in 2019.
Why this matters? I have a wealth of information that may help you get to where you want to go. I am in my 50s and have manifested multiple dreams over many years. I believe in myself and I believe you.
COACHING FOR PERSONAL GROWTH
I care about one thing. Helping you reach your goals and have a different experience of your life.
Occasionally when we stop, we ask ourselves things like:
Is what I am doing meaningful? Do I feel fulfilled?
What energizes me? What depletes me?
What do I have to do? What do I get to do?
I am congruent with myself? In other words, do I feel “right” with myself in what I’m doing and how I conduct myself?
Sometimes our lives become cluttered with things we don’t want to do and items that are not enriching our lives. We need to take a deep dive, get clear and take action on what we want.
How would you characterize your problem?
I’m not clear on what I want, but I know what I don’t want
I have too much to do
I have too little time to do what I want to do
I’m clear, but need courage to move forward
It’s not so much outside factors, I’m stuck
I need support as I make changes
CREATIVITY IS GOOD FOR ALL ASPECTS OF YOUR LIFE
People seek my help in this area who have gotten away from this vital part of their lives.
To get back on track, we might explore questions such as these:
What did you used to love to do creatively?
What happened that you set it down? Criticism, self-criticism, work, obligations, others expectations of you?
What is your vision of your creative self?
What is your history? What is your experience? What are your excuses?
What do you notice in your thoughts, feelings and body sensations?
Excitement? Fear? Driven? Uncertain? Motivated.
√ Reaching your goals
How about we let go of the word “goals” for a moment? What would the daydream of your life be? What does it look like, feel like, sound like? Most of us would like more space inside, a slower pace punctuated by exciting and fun times. However, we need a system. Spontaneity is great when we are on vacation, but it doesn’t work in real life. We are never going to feel like sitting down and writing or creating that thing we’ve been putting off. These days too much is in the way.
√ Work life balance
There are many books that attempt to offer easy answers for this complex question. How do we create and maintain balance with work and life? It is important to have a vision for your life with all of the elements your life currently contains, not some “pie-in-the-sky” version that can’t happen now. From taking an honest assessment of what needs to be done and what we are willing to do, we can build from there.
What is your story? What is the story you are telling yourself? What would you like your story to be?
You have a story to tell. I might be helpful to write it down, or just understand how it is impacting your life. What has brought you to this point in time? What kind of life do you want to live? How do you want to contribute in the world? Storytelling is vital to who we are and to the world.
Contact Me / Have any Question?
Deborah Sweet, Psy.D. was a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California before she moved out of state with her family after her husband retired. She founded the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles to ensure people received therapy specifically designed to reduce or clear trauma. After that, she returned to her roots of helping people through personal growth, creative and resiliency coaching. Her work used to focus on helping people heal from the past, now her work focuses on helping people move into the present and create a new future. Deborah is certified in Attachment-Focused EMDR (EMDRIA Certified), Somatic Experiencing®, Brainspotting and the Havening Technique®. She is also PIT trained through The Meadows. She is available for coaching sessions by phone or online.
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