How it works with Coaching or Consulting
After an assessment, I will help you create, navigate and achieve definable goals. As we come upon problems or thoughts in the way, we will deal with them. I have special tools to help people with mental, emotional or motivational blocks.
We meet on a weekly or bi-monthly basis to help you reach your goals either via phone or online.
I do not offer coaching packages, but prefer payment at time of service via a credit or debit card. We will work at your pace.
COACHING FOR PERSONAL GROWTH
Areas to improve, inspire or transform:
CONSULTING FOR BUSINESS GROWTH
You will identify what phase you are in:
Creating ideas and philosophy
Overwhelm or burnout
Clarity and freedom
I am a very practical person and enjoy sharing approaches that work. As we work together, we have tools at hand. We can talk, brainstorm, create an accountability plan, and more. If you come upon blocks, we will use new and novel approaches such as somatic experiencing, the havening technique, brainspotting and more to help you reach your goals.
Let me help you step outside of yourself to gain perspective to see what you can change, accept or modify. If I am not the person to help you, I will do my best to help you find the person who has the skills or perspective you need.
Somatic awareness empowers us to seek answers, accept or change what is. Somatic experiencing is a modality that relieves the effects of anxiety, stress or trauma on the body. When something threatens us we have three choices, flight, fight or freeze. When we are unable to run or fight, we may go into a frozen state where we dissociate in an effort to protect ourselves. We literally “turn off” a part of our brain that decides, “this is too much.”
While this coping mechanism might have worked well as a child, it doesn’t work in adulthood. As the first step, learning how to calm the body will help calm the mind. Then we can think clearly.
What Happens Using Somatic Therapy
Somatic therapy works primarily with the “felt sense” of the trauma by accessing physical sensations, imagery and motor patterns, with less emphasis on thinking or emotional processes. When a traumatic event takes place, if it was not discharged or released, it becomes locked in the nervous system, especially if the person was unable to escape or fight. An incomplete physiological response may develop if the person was unable to fight or get away. To release the activation trapped in the body, we focus on sensations in various parts of the body. Sensing into the body is one of the most effective ways to release the trapped survival energy.
What this looks like in therapy: In its simplest form, the therapist in a session might say, “Where do you sense that feeling (or thought) in your body? What do you sense? Is it hot or cold, rough or smooth, dense or diffuse? Stay with the sensations and notice what happens.” When sensations change, perceptions shift. The body’s wisdom has a chance to express itself and the system is able to self-regulate. Trauma dysregulates the nervous system. By using somatic therapies, we enable the nervous system to move re-regulate so can deal with what is happening in your life, past, present and future.
There are various ways to uncover and process core issues. Talk is helpful, however to go deeper, brainspotting can help heal what is going on below the surface. Like the analogy of the iceberg, we see what is above the water in talk therapy, but not what is underneath. Brainspotting helps us get to what is underneath.
A brainspot is a visual spot connected to memory or thoughts. For example, if you are sitting across from someone and ask them where is their favorite place to get coffee, their eyes will most likely look at a spot above your head. If you try to think of the last vacation you took, your eyes will most likely look off towards a spot so you can access the images associated with that vacation.
What to Expect in Brainspotting Therapy
Once the client has an awareness of an issue, the therapist asks where the activation (the feeling) is in the body such as in the chest, stomach or throat, then asks the client to assign a number between 0-10 for the level of activation for this issue.
Then the therapist moves a pointer across the client’s visual field and asks where the client feels the most activation. They stop on the spot the client chooses and then begin to process the material from there. The therapist checks in with the client as the client processes images, memories, thoughts, and sensations as they arise.
Brainspotting therapy can also help performance enhancement with musicians, actors, and athletes. BSP is an effective method of discharging activation associated with performance and helps them find the focus they need to engage in their professions with a greater sense of freedom and control.
The Havening Technique is based in neuroscience, however it works differently than the previously mentioned modalities. Unlike many techniques, once a person learns it they can provide it to themselves. Havening is a way of soothing that works to feel better after a stressful event or when dealing with a depressed or anxious mood. For an upsetting event that doesn’t seem to be getting better with time or by talking, writing, prayer, or other tools, Havening can help.
Regarding trauma, if certain circumstances are in place traumatic encoding of negative events will occur in the brain—a type of linking or neuroassociations. This can make us more sensitive to future traumatic events. Havening can help remove this sensitivity by delinking the event and how we feel about it.
Havening is a psychosensory therapy which means the sensation of brushing down our arms, hands, or face heals our psyche by causing a calming effect on our body and mind. This sensory input helps change our moods, thoughts, and behavior. Havening works with the combination of emotional activation, havening touch, distraction techniques, breathing, and eye movements.
Experience in Therapy in Brief
The client brings up an issue that is disturbing, upsetting, angering, or sad, or even cravings. After the person identifies the event or feeling, they rate it on a scale of 0-10 and then begin brushing down on their arms or the therapist provides facilitated havening which many people enjoy. They then play distraction games such as picturing themselves walking and counting out loud at the beach or mountains, or counting items, naming things, playing sports, or humming songs. There are many variations to the games. What people report is that they no longer feel traumatized by the event or it is farther away or less important.