How it works with Coaching or Consulting
After an assessment, I will help you create, navigate and achieve definable goals. As we come upon problems or thoughts in the way, we will deal with them. I have special tools to help people with mental, emotional or motivational blocks.
We meet on a weekly or bi-monthly basis to help you reach your goals either via phone or online.
I do not offer coaching packages, but prefer payment at time of service via a credit or debit card. We will work at your pace.
COACHING FOR PERSONAL GROWTH
Areas to improve, inspire or transform:
CONSULTING FOR BUSINESS GROWTH
You will identify what phase you are in:
Creating ideas and philosophy
Overwhelm or burnout
Clarity and freedom
I am a very practical person and enjoy sharing approaches that work. As we work together, we have tools at hand. We can talk, brainstorm, create an accountability plan, and more. If you come upon blocks, we will use new and novel approaches such as somatic experiencing, the havening technique, brainspotting and more to help you reach your goals.
Let me help you step outside of yourself to gain perspective to see what you can change, accept or modify. If I am not the person to help you, I will do my best to help you find the person who has the skills or perspective you need.
Confidentiality – Everything that you share with me will remain confidential. There are a few reasons, however, I am required to break confidentiality by law. The first would occur if you were of danger to yourself and had an active plan to harm yourself. In this case I would contact the hospital to place you on a 72-hour watch. Another reason would occur if you were planning to seriously harm another person. I would be required to contact the person threatened if possible as well as the police department. Confidentiality will also be broken if I learn of child or elder abuse and will contact protective services immediately. If I learn of a child abuser from a person’s past who is actively still around children I am mandated to report him or her. If you are a minor, I am required to share important information with your parents regarding your emotional health. This is not the case if the information you share would put you at extreme physical risk from a caregiver. Breaches in confidentiality will occur along with the same guidelines for adults above, but include a report if you are having a sexual relationship with an older peer or an adult if you are under 16 years of age. With the wonders of technology we will be able to meet online. Please know that, although it is very unlikely to be hacked, online communications are never fully secure.
Phone Calls and Emergency Contacts – Calls will generally be returned within 48 hours during regular working hours Monday-Friday unless I am out of town. I will generally tell you when I will be away from the office. I provide non-emergency service. If you have an immediate emergency you may call your local emergency hotline or 911. For phone calls over five minutes you will be charged $5/min. For some clients one check in message and response can be helpful or necessary at certain times. Please keep these messages to one message cycle and let me know if you want a call back or if we can wait to discuss the issue at our next session. I will not accept texts as forms of communication other than for scheduling. One short email per week is permitted. We can discuss the contents during our next session. I will not respond via email and will only do so in person. If this level of contact in between sessions is not enough we can discuss the possibility of bi-weekly meetings until you feel ready for once a week meetings. These limits are important so that I can be fully available to you professionally and can have thoughtful, resonant, and meaningful interactions with you.
Cancellations – If you decide that you need to cancel a session please call or text me 48 hours before. If you do not cancel, I will expect you to pay for the missed session in full. This means that if you have an appointment at 11:00am on Wednesday, you would need to cancel by 11:00am on Monday. This will allow me time to reschedule other clients who could benefit from the availability. Also, if we are able to reschedule during that week, there would be no charge. True emergency situations that cannot be foreseen can be negotiated (sudden illnesses, accidents, or unpredicted loss of childcare).
Somatic awareness empowers us to seek answers, accept or change what is. Somatic experiencing is a modality that relieves the effects of anxiety, stress or trauma on the body. When something threatens us we have three choices, flight, fight or freeze. When we are unable to run or fight, we may go into a frozen state where we dissociate in an effort to protect ourselves. We literally “turn off” a part of our brain that decides, “this is too much.”
While this coping mechanism might have worked well as a child, it doesn’t work in adulthood. As the first step, learning how to calm the body will help calm the mind. Then we can think clearly.
What Happens Using Somatic Therapy
Somatic therapy works primarily with the “felt sense” of the trauma by accessing physical sensations, imagery and motor patterns, with less emphasis on thinking or emotional processes. When a traumatic event takes place, if it was not discharged or released, it becomes locked in the nervous system, especially if the person was unable to escape or fight. An incomplete physiological response may develop if the person was unable to fight or get away. To release the activation trapped in the body, we focus on sensations in various parts of the body. Sensing into the body is one of the most effective ways to release the trapped survival energy.
What this looks like in therapy: In its simplest form, the therapist in a session might say, “Where do you sense that feeling (or thought) in your body? What do you sense? Is it hot or cold, rough or smooth, dense or diffuse? Stay with the sensations and notice what happens.” When sensations change, perceptions shift. The body’s wisdom has a chance to express itself and the system is able to self-regulate. Trauma dysregulates the nervous system. By using somatic therapies, we enable the nervous system to move re-regulate so can deal with what is happening in your life, past, present and future.
There are various ways to uncover and process core issues. Talk is helpful, however to go deeper, brainspotting can help heal what is going on below the surface. Like the analogy of the iceberg, we see what is above the water in talk therapy, but not what is underneath. Brainspotting helps us get to what is underneath.
A brainspot is a visual spot connected to memory or thoughts. For example, if you are sitting across from someone and ask them where is their favorite place to get coffee, their eyes will most likely look at a spot above your head. If you try to think of the last vacation you took, your eyes will most likely look off towards a spot so you can access the images associated with that vacation.
What to Expect in Brainspotting Therapy
Once the client has an awareness of an issue, the therapist asks where the activation (the feeling) is in the body such as in the chest, stomach or throat, then asks the client to assign a number between 0-10 for the level of activation for this issue.
Then the therapist moves a pointer across the client’s visual field and asks where the client feels the most activation. They stop on the spot the client chooses and then begin to process the material from there. The therapist checks in with the client as the client processes images, memories, thoughts, and sensations as they arise.
Brainspotting therapy can also help performance enhancement with musicians, actors, and athletes. BSP is an effective method of discharging activation associated with performance and helps them find the focus they need to engage in their professions with a greater sense of freedom and control.
The Havening Technique is based in neuroscience, however it works differently than the previously mentioned modalities. Unlike many techniques, once a person learns it they can provide it to themselves. Havening is a way of soothing that works to feel better after a stressful event or when dealing with a depressed or anxious mood. For an upsetting event that doesn’t seem to be getting better with time or by talking, writing, prayer, or other tools, Havening can help.
Regarding trauma, if certain circumstances are in place traumatic encoding of negative events will occur in the brain—a type of linking or neuroassociations. This can make us more sensitive to future traumatic events. Havening can help remove this sensitivity by delinking the event and how we feel about it.
Havening is a psychosensory therapy which means the sensation of brushing down our arms, hands, or face heals our psyche by causing a calming effect on our body and mind. This sensory input helps change our moods, thoughts, and behavior. Havening works with the combination of emotional activation, havening touch, distraction techniques, breathing, and eye movements.
Experience in Therapy in Brief
The client brings up an issue that is disturbing, upsetting, angering, or sad, or even cravings. After the person identifies the event or feeling, they rate it on a scale of 0-10 and then begin brushing down on their arms or the therapist provides facilitated havening which many people enjoy. They then play distraction games such as picturing themselves walking and counting out loud at the beach or mountains, or counting items, naming things, playing sports, or humming songs. There are many variations to the games. What people report is that they no longer feel traumatized by the event or it is farther away or less important.